Now more and more couples live separately. Either because the husband is transferred to another city by his office or his wife received a scholarship of education abroad, while his partner stayed in the city of origin. Long-distance marriage is certainly not without risk. Usually, every day can meet and communicate, now separated by a distance. In fact, communication is one of the most important factors in marital life. “Indeed, living together is more effective than the other one that had to live separately.
Undergo long distance marriage (husband and wife live separately) is not easy. “Each must have a sense of mutual trust and mature attitude. There must be selfish, narrow minded, and throw away the kinds of unfounded anxiety. Anyway, have to think positive!”
Well, the reason why, before deciding to live apart, had been carefully calculated. Perhaps it has more materially beneficial, for example. But it must to think well, the beneficial in efforts to form a harmonious family, especially when the beneficial for children, It will be better if you say no.
Long-distance marriage would be born to a lot of problems. For example: in terms of material. That’s right, there are two expenditure. But, the matter of transportation has to be thanked because the couple had to go back and forth home to families in certain times.
Choose Father or Mother
Long-distance marriage also raises the problem of the affairs of children. If you already have a child, a husband should realize that the burden of a wife will be more severe because they have to look after children alone. “It could be, right, if there is a problem with the child, and the husband accused the wife incompetent in taking care of the child. Well, it can be a source of conflict.
In contrast to couples who do not have children, for example, deciding when they want to have children and who will participate will make up the partners dialogue getting stress.
Children’s issues should be a separate concern. Children, grow, learn to be men, among others, in imitation of his parents. They need to fill the role of the father-mother. If only available one, the child can not grow in full.
Benefit
Although intercepted a number of issues, long-distance marriages also have advantages. For couples who do not have children, for example, each became more able to concentrate on his career. Want the meeting until the night was not really matter, because no one waiting at home. They also can develop their hobby because I have more free time. Whether gardening, painting, fishing, and so on.
Another advantage, they can be more independent and not dependent on their partner. They are also more able to appreciate the companionship that the meeting be qualified. If there is something wrong, they will quickly drive to solve the problem. If living together, going to noisy a week, it doesn’t matter. But if just seen for two days a month, for example, want to noisy? It’s too a pity
Children also have benefit, especially if the child know how long his father or mother was in another city, such as 2 or 3 years, children were able to learn that life is diverse. Horizons become wider.
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